I love that quote. This forum is not a place to air greivances, attack, insult or upset people. Disagreements should be handled civilly and diplomatically.Let's not bicker and argue about who killed who, this is supposed to be a happy occasion!
The following quote was originally posted on another site I used to visit and it sums up how I approach running this forum:
The House Style is simple really - we regard this place as an open house where we host an open door party. Anyone can come in and be a welcome guest here. We have hosts (moderators) who try to help you settle in, feel comfortable, etc. We expect all guests to treat other guests with respect. To disagree with each other is a good thing, as it presents different perspectives to a discussion. Just disagree respectfully.
... Go back to that 'open house party' idea, and imagine if you'd inadvertantly spilt an ashtray over. If it is a minor spill, the hosts and hostesses of this party may simply tell you you've done it so you know, and tell you where the cleaning stuff is if you want to clean it up for yourself. If it is a major spill, we may immediately clean it up and there will be no hard feelings (but we will ask you to be more careful of course). But if you continually spill stuff, and don't clean up for yourself, we'd eventually have to ask you to leave, or the house just isn't going to be pleasant for other guests, and the hosts and hostesses want to spend their time meeting and greeting and facilitating, not cleaning up after one clumsy person.
In short, we try to keep moderation here friendly, informal, and to treat you all as adults capable of cleaning up your own messes if you should make them. Most people hardly know the moderators do anything but encourage good discussions and a warm atmosphere, and actually, that's mostly all we do.
The good, respectful community here is because we have a good respectful community here, and one we are very proud of, and eager to have you join and enjoy too.
I expect members here to behave like adults, so there isn't a long list of rules here, but there are a few:... this is not 'Nam. ... There are rules.
- taboo topics - This site is not a free speech zone. It's private property. Certain topics tend to be divisive and beyond the subject for this place. We want a supportive community in pursuit of our common interest. Therefore, the following topics are taboo and will be deleted (and may be cause for termination of your account):
- religion - Absolutely no proselytizing allowed.
- depression / suicide - If you are feeling low, please seek professional help. I know it seems silly to have to mention this here, but experience with other forums has shown that it's necessary.
- Do not post 3rd party paid/members only content - Third party content including but not limited to newsletters, market alerts, subscription services, etc. which sits behind a pay wall (ie. you need to pay a fee to access it) should not be posted here.
- Do not cross post - Do not post the same message multiple times across the forum. Post a message one time in the most appropriate forum room or discussion thread. People who have an interest will find it.
- Do not spam the forum - Do not post overt advertisements in the forum. If you are going to contribute something of substance to a discussion, placing a link in your profile or signature is allowed and encouraged.
Most of the discussions here cover serious topics, but that doesn't mean we can't all have a sense of humor.No soup for you!